Series: Updating my life......Protective stylin'

I was growing tired of the hassle that came with the protective styles I was used to wearing:

Individual braids: I first scour the city to find someone I didn't know but halfway trusted to install the braids AND not have to worry about them running a lighter up and down the braid. Then I stress over the amount of money and time I'm about to give up for it swearing "these are going to stay up for months!"..... Only to take them down in 6wks. WOMP.

Series: Updating my life

Over the past few weeks I've picked up a few items here and there in attempts to revive my wardrobe.....Sorry I don't do extravagant hauls, I'm still working on exposing sunlight on my inner fierce diva lol

*Striped shirt:Worthington- JCPenney

*Sweater: Mossimo-Target

*Skirt: Xhilaration-Target

*Booties: Not rated- littleblackbag.com 

My next step is to find someplace to wear these items.......

Series: Updating my life

I should've posted this a couple of weeks ago but lately I've been barely getting on my computer and when I do it's only for a few minutes......

ANYWHO

I recently decided to get a protective style to get me through most  the rest of nursing school. I figured a sew in would be best because it was versatile and I could go as long or short as I want to..... I ended up with this one:

What you think? It's simple yet chic.....I can flirt it up when I need to or tone it down by putting it into a half up half down ponytail. I like it alot and my husband loves it...... it's crazy because he doesn't want me to cut me actual hair but loves the short hair do's on me. Go figure.

My plan is to leave it up for another few weeks then take it down and prepare for a relaxer...... 

Series: Updating my life

There comes a time in every woman's life when they evaluate and strategize (if necessary) about if and how they need to make changes to themselves..... 

Getting married has brought something to my attention: I need an update.

*I sort of talked about it in this post*

Since I have identified and am now fully aware of my need, it's time to figure out what exactly needs to change and where I should start...... Simple right? You'd be surprised how complicated I tend to make things :)

These are the things I feel as though need some updating:

• Wardrobe/accessories/shoes
• Home decor
• Hair

My wardrobe issue is actually an ongoing thing, since the beginning of the year I've been trying to get that together..... and failed miserably. Plus in the past 6 months I've given away alot of my clothes so it causes me to look like a rerun more often than not...... BUT! It doesn't stop me from trying again.... and again..... and again lol My main issue is that whenever I go into a store I don't see anything I like or I feel like whatever I do see that has potential, there are like 3 other girls right behind me picking up the same item and they are about 5 or 6 years younger! Does this mean I still have high school style? Or am I shopping in the wrong department? 

 Our apt decor could definitely use an update mainly because, well we don't actually have any. What I mean is there isn't much...... flow. Sure there are a few decorations but nothing really goes together, on purpose? I struggle with this because our space is not massive so if there is too much going on, it makes the place look junky and I hate that! So really the deal is to find ways to decorate while keeping the space as open and de-cluttered as possible. There's a challenge...... 

My hair. Nothing is wrong with my hair, it's growing fine and recovering rather nicely thank you ! It's just....  boring. I think that's my real problem; I am bored with my hair. No, I don't want to cut it and although I've been thinking of color I don't plan to do anything permanent at the moment. My hairstyles are what have me in a funk about my entire head. I'm always putting my hair up in some type of bun or clip, I can't ever find anything cute to do with it! Then I can never think of anything cute and quick to do if hubby and I want to go out to eat or decide to do something spontaneous. It's frustrating. Maybe I should start back going to the salon on a more regular basis..... I don't know yet though.

I'm sure there are other areas in my little life that need some updating but right now I feel as though these need the most attention so I'll focus here first. Really excited about rerouting my energy towards things that will help in my quest of channeling the wife inside of me.... Cause right now I still don't feel like one.

Is that normal? Let's not even think about what's normal and what isn't lol..... I will try to update on this topic at least once a week so be on the look out for it:)

I'm ready to update my life.... are you? You should join me! I would love to have some buddies in this journey; you don't have to do the same ones as me, you could update any area of your life whether it be work, school, or personal-related.... we can all use some updating! Leave a comment, link up to this page or do both!! 

So I'm married..... now what?

It's been a few weeks since the wedding and the hype seems like it's officially died down surrounding it. We're business as usual, both back to work and school for me in a few weeks. I tackled the dreaded name change game- driving back and forth and all over town to the different places to submit name change forms..... don't even get me started on the waiting game I had to play at the smallest Social Security office IN THE WORLD just to change my name on my card. I told Lewis he needed to be thankful that he didn't have to change his name and go through any of this madness I had to endure.... ish was for the birds. I digress.

After all that "excitement" was over, I was just sitting on the couch one afternoon and I found myself thinking:

"So..... now what happens?"

What is my next step as a wife? Where do I go from this point? Silly me thought there was this checklist that all new wives get tucked into their wedding bands to refer to. Nope! So I guess that means I'm wingin' it, right?

Since there is no special protocol to life after your wedding, I think I am just going to update my life. Yea, that's what I'll do! I need to anyways, and what better excuse to do that than getting married! What I plan to do is pick out a few areas in my life that need updating and make them part of my personal goals for the rest of 2013. I'll make it a series here on the blog to stay motivated and try to get as many, if not all of them updated before the year is over.

Time to shake things up..... 

Updating my wardrobe

For the past few months whenever we get invited to go out somewhere or I have an impromptu meet up with the girls I find myself standing in the closet frustrated because the current clothes in my closet don't match the style I am trying to go for that night.... and hasn't for a long while. I am on a personal quest to get my wardrobe to match the point I am in my life right now. Most of the clothes I own are outdated and probably too small. It is safe to say that I have more than likely outgrown the stage in my life that my clothes reflect. The problem is that I SUCK at shopping and I have no idea how to even begin to choose a style to follow...... Thank GOD for Google! I typed in the search box the "must have items a woman should have in her closet" just to get a look at some the staple items I should (already but don't) own and to sort of give me a guide into updating. Here are a few I ran across:

Black Blazer. "A tailored blazer is classic, feminine and looks great on all body types. Pair it with anything: jeans, little dresses, trousers, skirts. Make sure to find one that fits you well and accentuates your waist—you don't want it to look like it's swallowing you!"  - Courtesy of Instyle.com

Black pencil skirt. Is figure flattering and can be paired with any style top for an always polished finish. The one I used to have has become too small so it's time to replace it....

Little Black Dress (LBD). Apparently every woman should have one, it's sort of a go-to item because you can change up the accessories and shoes and it becomes a totally different outfit every time you wear it.

Cute pajamas. I just thought to myself "why don't I own some cute sleep clothes?" Too bad I wasn't aware that big old t-shirts aren't always sexy to sleep in ...... Lewis had to inform me lol

Khaki pants. I know you are probably like "why in the world would she need khaki pants, is she trying to get a job at Target?" No, but khaki pants are all-season, can work in various outfits and are really cheap to update! I owned some at one point but I never thought to repurchase....


These are some of the items that were repeatedly suggested to have in a woman's wardrobe along with other essentials like a white button down shirt, cute flats and a black handbag. With these things I'm sure I can spin off an array of fun, sexy and casual outfits to help me as I evolve into this stage of womanhood I feel as though I am entering now.

What do you think? Do you have any of these items in your closet already? Anything else you think I should incorporate into my wardrobe?